NY Times: May 2014

Today in the roll of flower girl: Grandma!

Ariel Meadow Stallings, the founder of Offbeat Bride, a wedding blog that features nontraditional weddings, said that brides selecting grandmothers as attendants is part of a larger trend: couples wanting to include their family members in the wedding, but not in a traditional way.

“For a lot of couples and their families, there’s friction between the traditional role that families play in weddings and the couple’s concerns about where those traditions come from and the feeling that they don’t reflect their lives,” Ms. Stallings said.

Rather than eliminating those roles completely, which can cause family turmoil, she is seeing more couples incorporating family members in ways that highlight those individuals’ character traits or abilities.

Ms. Stallings suggests asking, “How can we celebrate who this person is?”

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Author of Offbeat Bride (Seal Press; 2007, 2009, 2019) and the forthcoming Shitshow After-Party (Seal Press, 2020), Ariel Meadow Stallings likes to poke at the soft places of overlap between culture, identity, relationships, and personal development.